Dreaming Up Your "Ideal" Life
You’ve likely heard the question before: What does your ideal life look like? Maybe you’ve even pondered, What is an ideal life, anyway?
For me, this question arrived wrapped in a challenge—one of those moments the universe gifts us to break down the ego. I had been receiving messages from clients celebrating their successes after our sessions together, and while I was truly elated for them, a quiet voice inside me asked: Why can I help others move forward but not myself?
Lately, I had been feeling stagnant in my own growth, uncertain of my next steps. I found myself caught in a spiral of thoughts, trying to define what I truly wanted. Yet, no matter how hard I searched, I couldn’t find a clear answer. One thing I did know—I didn’t want to shape my ideal life based on someone else’s version of success.
As it often happens, clarity found me in the shower. There I stood, water cascading over me, lost in a daydream. I asked myself again: What is my ideal life? Was it the traditional checklist— a fancy house, a nice car, 2.5 kids, a hefty bank account? The thought alone made me recoil. No, that wasn’t it.
I began to wonder if other healers had experienced the same thoughts. Did Dr. Joe Dispenza ever stand in the shower questioning his ability to manifest his own future?
Dr. Dispenza, a renowned researcher, teacher, and author, is known for his work in neuroscience, epigenetics, and quantum physics, helping people harness the power of their minds to heal and transform their lives. He teaches that our thoughts shape our reality, that by rewiring neural pathways and shifting our energy, we can break free from past conditioning and create a new future. (If you haven’t checked him out, I highly recommend starting with his books.)
But even the greatest teachers must first be students. How can one guide others in mastering the mind without first embarking on that journey themselves? And then, like a gentle whisper from my soul, the answer surfaced. Teaching.
Whether working one-on-one with clients, speaking in group settings, or sharing insights through my writing, teaching has always ignited something deep within me. But to be a good teacher, one must first be a devoted student. That’s when the real revelation struck—what I truly desire is a life full of continuous growth and learning.
In that moment, a profound peace washed over me. My ideal life wasn’t some distant reality waiting to unfold. It was already here. Right now. I am living it, breathing it, experiencing it.
We are so often conditioned to chase external markers of success—material wealth, status, validation. Yet, when we pause and tune in, we might realize that fulfillment isn’t found in possessions but in presence. In the richness of our daily experiences. In the lessons we gather. In the ever-unfolding journey of being.
So, if you’re searching for your ideal life, perhaps the question isn’t What do I need to attain? but rather What do I already have?
And maybe, just maybe, you’ll find that you’re living it, too.
How to Discover Your Ideal Life
If you’re searching for your ideal life, perhaps the question isn’t What do I need to attain? but rather What do I already have?
Here are some reflective prompts to help you gain clarity:
What moments make you feel the most alive?
Think back to times when you felt deeply engaged, joyful, or at peace. What were you doing? Who were you with?
What do you love learning about?
Your passions and curiosities often hold clues to your soul’s purpose. What topics or activities naturally draw you in?
If you had unlimited time and resources, how would you spend your days?
Strip away financial and societal constraints—what does your heart truly long for?
What values do you want your life to reflect?
Love, creativity, freedom, service, adventure—what guiding principles feel essential to your fulfillment?
If you need help defining your values, check out my other post here.
What would your younger self be proud of?
Sometimes, our childhood dreams and instincts still hold wisdom about our truest desires.
How do you want to feel in your ideal life?
Instead of focusing on external achievements, focus on inner states: Do you want to feel peaceful? Excited? Inspired? Supported?
As you explore these questions, release any pressure to have a perfect answer. Your ideal life isn’t a rigid destination—it’s a path that unfolds with each step, shaped by your growth, your choices, and your willingness to embrace the present moment.
So, if you’re searching for your ideal life, take a deep breath and look around. Maybe, just maybe, you’re already living it in ways you never realized. ✨ If you need personal support, I’m just a few clicks away.
Ah, this lands exactly where it needs to. The endless search for the ideal life often blinds us to the life we’re already living - the one that, in some quiet way, already holds what we’re chasing.
That shift from ‘What do I need to attain?’ to ‘What do I already have?’ - now that’s the real revelation. It’s wild how often we postpone our own fulfillment, as if it’s some distant reward rather than something we can claim right now.
And the part about being both a student and a teacher? Yes. That’s the dance. Growth isn’t about arriving: it’s about staying open, curious, and willing to evolve.
This was a joy to read. Thank you for this reminder to stop, breathe, and see what’s already here.